How To Respect Yourself and Set Healthy Boundaries
What are Boundaries?
A line which marks the limits of an area – a dividing line
Boundaries are guidelines, rules or personal limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permitted ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone exceeds those limits.
During the Maiden and Mother Archetype phases pre-menopause, women can find they put the needs of others ahead of their own needs.
I have fallen into the trap of being a people pleaser over the years but I think with age can come confidence and self-acceptance to start pushing back, especially as you approach menopause, setting better boundaries can be a form of self-love.
To set healthy boundaries requires direct communication and assertive language.
If you are struggling with low self-esteem due to the hormone imbalance of menopause this can make the menopause transition an even more difficult time.
In this post, explore self-respect and boundaries and what this would look like in your life. How can you implement healthy boundaries to support your menopause health?
Self Respect & Healthy Boundaries
Self-respect and healthy boundaries are particularly crucial during menopause for several reasons:
- Maintaining Emotional Well-being: Menopause can bring about significant changes that may impact emotional health. Having self-respect allows women to prioritise their emotional well-being by recognising and honouring their feelings, and needs.
- Navigating Relationship Dynamics: During menopause, women may experience shifts in their relationships, including with partners, children, friends, and coworkers. Healthy boundaries can help navigate these changes.
- Preserving Physical Health: Self-respect encourages women to prioritise their physical health during menopause by engaging in self-care practices such as regular exercise, nutritious meals and adequate rest. Setting boundaries around activities and commitments can prevent overexertion and burnout, allowing you to maintain your health and energy levels.
- Empowerment and Self-Advocacy: Menopause can be a time of empowerment as women embrace their wisdom and experience. Self-respect and healthy boundaries empower women to advocate for themselves in various areas of life, including healthcare, work, and personal relationships, ensuring that their needs and preferences are respected and addressed.
- Coping with Changes: Menopause often involves significant changes in various aspects of life, including roles, identity, and priorities. Having self-respect and healthy boundaries can provide you with a strong foundation for coping with these changes, making you resilient and adaptable.
- Reducing Stress and Anxiety: Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries can reduce stress and anxiety during menopause by creating a sense of control and predictability in women’s lives. When women prioritise self-respect and honour their boundaries, they are less likely to feel overwhelmed by external pressures and demands.
Taking control of unhealthy boundaries can help you gain control of certain menopause symptoms such as feelings of anger and emotional distress.
It is important during the menopause transition to carve out some physical space and provide yourself with a way of dealing with your menopause transition in your own time.
Setting Healthy Boundaries
There are some common challenges to setting boundaries during menopause such as;
Family dynamics can change roles and priorities shift as children grow and become more independent but also more dependent in many ways if their social life impacts your time.
As parents age the responsability of a family member may fall on your shoulders and you need to navigate the best way to support their needs and your personal space.
Hormonal fluctuations during menopause may impact your emotions and tolerance levels.
There are external pressures to consider. A challenging workplace environment, toxic relationships and difficult situations.
Strategies for setting and maintaining healthy boundaries;
- Reflect on your values, needs, and limits to identify where important boundaries are needed in your life. Take my free Empowered Menopause Workshop to discover your current values and write your Menopause Statement.
- Consider how you feel in different situations such as a new relationship, a romantic partner, best friend, family members, work etc and what person’s behaviour or interactions and actions of others are acceptable to you.
- Communicate your boundaries to others respectfully and assertively. Use “I” statements to express your needs and preferences without blaming or criticising others.
- Consistently enforce your boundaries by responding promptly and assertively when they are crossed. This helps reinforce your boundaries and demonstrates your commitment to self-respect.
- Recognise that boundaries may need to be adjusted or renegotiated as circumstances change. Stay open to feedback from others and be willing to adapt your boundaries as needed to maintain healthy relationships.
- Prioritise self-care practices that support your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Taking care of yourself helps you establish and maintain strong boundaries by ensuring that you have the energy and resilience to enforce them effectively.
It’s not just about boundary setting towards other people. An important part of self-respect is not accepting disrespectful behaviour by yourself towards yourself!
Tips for Respecting Yourself During Menopause
Self-care practices for physical, mental, and emotional health
- Prioritise regular exercise: Engage in physical activities that you enjoy and that promote strength, flexibility, and cardiovascular health. Exercise can help alleviate menopausal symptoms, reduce stress, and improve mood.
- Eat a well-balanced diet: Fuel your body with nutritious foods rich in vitamins, minerals, and antioxidants. Focus on incorporating plenty of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins, and healthy fats into your meals to support overall health and well-being.
- Get adequate rest: Prioritise quality sleep by establishing a consistent sleep schedule, creating a relaxing bedtime routine, and optimising your sleep environment. Sufficient sleep is essential for physical, mental health and emotional health during menopause.
- Practice stress management techniques: Incorporate stress-reducing activities into your daily routine, such as mindfulness meditation, deep breathing exercises, yoga, or spending time in nature. Managing stress is crucial for maintaining overall well-being during menopause.
- Have some fun! What makes you happy? Do more of that.
Cultivating positive self-talk and self-compassion
- Challenge negative self-talk: Become aware of your internal dialogue and challenge any negative or self-critical thoughts. Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations and reminders of your worth, strengths, and accomplishments.
- Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness, understanding, and acceptance, especially during challenging times. Acknowledge that menopause is a natural phase of life and be gentle with yourself as you navigate its ups and downs.
- Seek support: Surround yourself with supportive friends, family members, or a therapist who can offer encouragement, validation, and empathy. Talking openly about your experiences and feelings can help alleviate self-doubt and boost self-esteem.
Seeking support from loved ones and professionals
- Communicate your needs: Be open and honest with your loved ones about how they can support you during menopause. Whether you need practical assistance, emotional support, or simply someone to listen, let them know how they can help.
- Educate yourself: Take the time to learn about menopause and its effects on your body and mind. Knowledge empowers you to make informed decisions about your health and well-being and enables you to advocate for yourself effectively. Explore my free resources HERE.
- Consider professional guidance: If you’re struggling to cope with menopausal symptoms or emotional challenges, consider seeking support from a healthcare provider, therapist, or menopause specialist, (book a complimentary Wild Well-being Call with me). They can offer personalised guidance, treatment options, and coping strategies to help you navigate this stage of life with greater ease.
Sticking to your Boundaries
Setting your personal boundaries is likely to highlight an unhealthy relationship with any toxic people.
True friends will support your process of change, they might think consistent boundaries are a good idea and begin to set their own boundaries.
By identifying your personal needs and limits, communicating boundaries effectively, addressing boundary violations assertively, and practising self-care and boundary maintenance, you can establish and maintain healthy boundaries that support your well-being during menopause and beyond.
Remember that “No” is a complete sentence. You don’t need to offer an excuse or an explanation. Setting boundaries is an ongoing process that requires self-awareness, assertiveness, and self-compassion. Setting boundaries isn’t selfish, it’s self-love, saying YES to yourself builds self-esteem.
At the end of the day, any changes you make are not going to establish themselves overnight. Take small steps, build on each success, praise positive behaviour towards your boundaries and enforce your boundaries consistently.
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